A Solid state mind
Hahahahahahaha!
Yes I laughed when I first thought of that — a solid state mind, what on earth does this mean. I thought to myself are you losing it. It’s not by force to write or to coin something or to even give it a name. Later on I realized it was the solid state mind that was playing with me.
First what’s solid state? Solid state as is in dictionary is the state of matter in which materials are not fluid but retain their boundaries without support, the atoms or molecules occupying fixed positions with respect to one another and unable to move freely.
Forget everything after “without support”, my focus is on without support.
When you have an operational mind not influenced by external factors, making decisions on your own for your own reasons and benefits as it may be. That mind is not fluid but retains boundaries without support
When we were growing up we required the boundaries with support, which was very necessary for our growth and development. But you and I are grown now, why do we still depend on that support.
A lot of us young adults today still run to “daddy and mummy”, for help. We get broke, we run to them, we have issues with “Bae”, we run to them. Small bricks life throws at us we run to them. Don’t get me wrong we need them but the question is are they the first option or final resort.
You see something we fail to understand, all these our parents we keep turning to for help didn’t do same while growing up and they grew up to be way more matured earlier than our current average maturity age. I was opportune to sit with a father/mentor/every-good-thing-you-can-think-of, and he told me of his life growing up, at 19 he was already living on his own, making his own decisions for his future. Today, by God’s grace he is above 70 and still doing things he did even at the age of 19.
Honestly when I was 19, I was in the university, yes, but I was not making the decisions. I was still very dependent on parents. The thing we have to realize is that it’s not our parents fault that we are dependent on them. In short, the first way to know you have a problem is when you keep blaming your parents for all the things you failed to do. I decided when it was time to leave home and my parents as strict as they were when I was growing up respected me and my decisions.
My mom is probably the most strict person I have met, I am yet to meet any one worse. For so long I blamed my inability to make my decisions on the fear of my mom and the fact that she will want something else, but I realized even my mom that is madam strict, respected my decisions when I became bold enough to go through with my own decisions.
I know a certain young lady, she wanted something her father wanted something else for her, this tenacious lady packed her things and moved to another city to chase that thing she wanted, and trust me she is doing fine today. We must be ready to let go of the comfort and go for what we want.
So my fellow young adults, I think we should start doing what we think is best for us, take heed to your parents counsel but also trust your instincts. Our parents are here to guide us and that they have been doing very well, but I think it’s time we stood up and started channeling our own course.
